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Yet when Absalom finally comes to David\u2019s palace, the father kisses the son, revealing his deep connection to him, even though he had murdered his brother all those years before.<\/span><\/p>\r\n While it is not uncommon for parents to feel conflicted regarding their love for their offspring (see Jacob\u2019s feelings for Joseph, in Gen. 37:3,11; 35; 46:29; 50:1) nevertheless, David\u2019s powerful and even irrational, emotions vis-\u00e0-vis Absalom are extreme.<\/span><\/p>\r\n The relationship is further exacerbated when Absalom decides to lead a violent insurrection intended to displace his father and install himself as King (see 2 Samuel 15:1-18:18); and yet, when news reaches David that Absalom had been killed, despite having been threatened by this wayward son previously, David deeply mourns his son\u2019s death (19:1-5), and remarkably says: \u201cIf only I had died instead of you!...\u201d<\/span><\/p>\r\n The love for a charismatic child, even when the latter fundamentally threatens the parent, is a mysterious emotion that invites deep psychological explanations.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n Image: David and Absalom Reconcile, by Rudolf von Ems: Weltchronik, c. 1360 \/ wikimedia<\/p>","post_main_content_image":{"id":60600,"alt":"","title":"2sam14-david absalom","caption":"","description":"","mime_type":"image\/jpeg","url":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom.jpg","width":800,"height":493,"sizes":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom-150x150.jpg","thumbnail-width":150,"thumbnail-height":150,"medium":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom-300x185.jpg","medium-width":300,"medium-height":185,"medium_large":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom-768x473.jpg","medium_large-width":768,"medium_large-height":473,"large":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom.jpg","large-width":800,"large-height":493,"1536x1536":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom.jpg","1536x1536-width":800,"1536x1536-height":493,"2048x2048":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom.jpg","2048x2048-width":800,"2048x2048-height":493,"post_full_size":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom.jpg","post_full_size-width":800,"post_full_size-height":493,"home_baner":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam14-david-absalom-682x420.jpg","home_baner-width":682,"home_baner-height":420}},"post_main_content_embedded_video":"","post_main_content_video_duration":"","post_main_content_show_fb_comments":"1","post_main_content_credit_media":"","tile_top_caption":"","tile_main_caption":"The Threat Of The Son; The Love Of The Father","tile_main_caption_size":"1","tile_sub_caption":"He kills his brother and tries to usurp him. 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Modern in that it could happen today; and radical in that it demands our unflinching attention. Though our society is less rigidly patriarchal than Tamar\u2019s, it is chilling to read alongside today\u2019s news. David does nothing, because he is unable to confront the painful reality that his favorite son is a violent misogynist. When faced with competing interests, then and now, women\u2019s lives are deemed less important than male comfort.<\/span><\/p>\r\n Rebecca Solnit writes that \u201cBeing unable to tell your story is a living death and sometimes a literal one\u2026. Violence against women is often against our voices and our stories.\u201d Tamar is silenced multiple times, yet her voice is unusually strong. She uses all the tools in her intellectual and rhetorical arsenal to defend herself against Amnon. Amnon silences her when she resists and he rapes her, and again after the rape, when she pleads with Amnon not to send her away, sentencing her to a \u201cliving death\u201d as she would be unable to marry. Her final, literal silencing is at the hands of her \u201cgood\u201d brother Absalom, who comes upon her screaming immediately after the rape, and tells her to keep quiet about it. There is no plausible way to read this text as a cautionary tale, to keep women in line.Tamar\u2019s only sin is her existence, something Amnon seems to hold against her, referring to her as \u201cit\u201d when he instructs his servant to lock her outside.<\/span><\/p>\r\n In contrast to Absalom, the Talmud notably praises her reaction, stating \u201cTamar established a great fence at that time by way of her public outcry, as people said: If such an occurrence could happen to the daughters of kings, all the more so could it happen to the daughters of ordinary people.\u201d I used to fear Amnon would kill Tamar each time I read this story, a plausible if brutal ending to her tale. But the text forces us to reckon with Tamar\u2019s humanity post-rape, and forces us to do better for women and other vulnerable people who are victims of powerful men. Tamar had no other life ahead of her, and stayed in Absalom\u2019s house \u201cforlorn,\u201d disappearing from the text, as so many women do from life. 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Generous, caring, altruistic Tamar, who thought she was going to care for the ill and walked into the end of her life.<\/span><\/p>\r\n Alone in his room, Amnon grabbed her. \u201cCome, lie with me, sister.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\r\n But Tamar said no. <\/span><\/p>\r\n \u201cDon\u2019t abuse me,\u201d she warned, then, fear mounting upon fear, \u201cwhere would I carry my shame?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\r\n She pleaded with her brother, grasping for her salvation\u2014would Amnon ask their father for her hand, instead of doing \u201cthis scurrilous thing.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n \u201c[But] Amnon did not want to heed her voice, and he overpowered her and abused her and bedded her.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n I am reminded of David\u2019s spotting Bathsheba. Wanting and taking her. Bathsheba\u2019s silence and Tamar\u2019s resistance met the same end.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n \u201cAnd Amnon hated her with a very great hatred, for greater was the hatred with which he hated her than the love with which he had loved her.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n Love?<\/span><\/em><\/p>\r\n \u201cAnd Amnon said, \u2018Get up, go!\u2019 And she said to him, \u2018Don\u2019t!\u2014this wrong is greater than the other you did to me, to send me away now.\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/p>\r\n But he did send her away. The entitlement of men and the fetishizing of women always leads down the same path\u2014in using women and throwing them away.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n It took just one moment of self-indulgence for Amnon to destroy Tamar. She would never\u00a0 marry, would never become a mother in Israel. 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Here is a young woman, raised in a cosseted royal household, likely under the microscope of public opinion, in an environment of male dominance, who, while trying to help her brother through a supposed illness, becomes his rape victim.\u00a0 But besides relating a horrific event of sexual violence, the narrative also illustrates Tamar\u2019s courage, way ahead of her time, and demonstrates an example of victim response that only now, in 21<\/span>st<\/span> century society, is becoming normalized.<\/span><\/p>\r\n First, Tamar verbally and without any mistake refuses consent. \u201cCome lie with me\u201d asks her brother. \u201cDon\u2019t force me\u201d is her unequivocal reply (13:12).\u00a0 While her refused consent didn\u2019t help Tamar, we know today that consent is key in judging guilt of sexual violence.<\/span><\/p>\r\n Second, she fought. Following the attack, we hear about Amnon\u2019s sudden hatred of Tamar.\u00a0 Many commentaries suggest that Amnon\u2019s hatred is a projection of his self-hatred with the knowledge that forever more every time he sees Tamar he\u2019ll be reminded of his own degeneracy. But many commentaries, including Rashi, are less charitable to Amnon and speculate that he was really expressing anger over the fight Tamar put up. Evidently, when Amnon had finished with Tamar and before he had thrown her out, she managed to tie something (a hair, a string\u2026it doesn\u2019t really matter) around Amnon\u2019s organ, mutilating him for life. Good for you, Tamar! It might not have served her well in today\u2019s judicial system but would surely play well in the court of public opinion.<\/span><\/p>\r\n And thirdly, she didn\u2019t try to hide the truth or protect her aggressor. 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\r\nAnd everyone left her. And when Amnon told Tamar to come into his chambers, she followed dutifully.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\r\n