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The psalmist is in a state of terror, begging God for mercy and compassion. A terrible sin has been committed, the author is broken and confused by his conduct.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We may find it difficult to relate: why reach out to God as such a time? Surely one should look to make amends, to improve oneself, to repair the relationship that has suffered?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

All of this is true, but the psalmist is demonstrating two important qualities here. There is both an awareness of his pain and an awareness of how it has been brought about by his own deeds, by the conflicts that live inside of him. I find this striking because these are the two things Freud says a person must have, or arrive at, in order to undergo a successful analysis.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is not a secret that many people come into analysis due to an underlying sense of guilt, often manifesting as low self esteem or a lack of confidence. Two key themes in how it achieves this are the overcoming of resistance and the modification of conscience.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Resistance is not about conscious hostility to the analyst, though it can sometimes be expressed in that way. It is much more to do with the fact that we are fundamentally opposed to change, as much as we may protest otherwise. Our personalities have been formed in the crucible of our lives, we have adopted strategies that were necessary to survive. These are the things we refer to as \u2018defences\u2019. Our psyche is not about to readily give up on these, on the untested promise that something better awaits<\/span><\/p>\n

Helping a person become less defensive and more open is thus a major part of the work, only then is there any chance of meaningful transformation. As far as I can tell, this is also a major objective of religion. It is about giving up on our defensive narcissism and adopting a more humble and open way of being.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Modifying conscience is a more controversial topic, who is the analyst to tell a person what their moral compass should look like?<\/span><\/p>\n

The analyst does not do exactly this, but rather attempts to modify the tone and character of one\u2019s conscience. Vic Sedlak explains that analysis aims at a conscience which is \u201cconcerned with nuanced moral judgment, which takes reality and humane consideration into account, rather than delivering absolute moralistic condemnation\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is not achieved through lecturing or criticism, but rather relies upon the analyst\u2019s capacity for compassion, understanding and non-judgment. The patient and grounded analyst will be able to contain and process the patient\u2019s overactive conscience. They thus model a less punitive and angry mode of being.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So the psalmist turns to a loving and compassionate God and the patient turns to a loving and compassionate analyst. 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