{"id":67279,"date":"2019-12-18T21:24:01","date_gmt":"2019-12-18T19:24:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/?p=67279"},"modified":"2023-07-16T09:27:04","modified_gmt":"2023-07-16T06:27:04","slug":"the-psychology-of-helping-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/the-psychology-of-helping-others\/","title":{"rendered":"The Psychology Of Helping Others"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-content\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[281],"tags":[819,461,386],"acf":{"old_id":"67279","type":"no","iframe":"","writer":58418,"related_cahpter":"375","type_929":"2","show_author_image":false,"old_create_date":"","old_url":"","post_main_content":{"description":"Do we only act out of pure egoism?","content":"<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Each one helps the other, saying to his fellow, \u201cTake courage!\u201d (Isaiah 41:6).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The purpose of this verse, which is familiar to many of us, is to encourage mutual help. In actual fact, this verse is referring to other nations\u00a0 who enlist to fight a war against God.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Still, let&#8217;s learn something about the behavioral aspects of helping others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Who do we tend to help? Why, and in what situations? Is there a scientific basis for altruistic behavior? These and other questions are studied by researchers in the fields of philosophy, sociology and psychology.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Various models suggest that the choice to help a person in distress depends on three factors:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>The cost of providing help<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &#8211; in terms of effort, time or money, contact with unpleasant people, or risk of injury that is involved;\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Compensation for lending a hand<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &#8211; satisfaction with the challenge, appreciation from others;\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><b>Cost of avoiding helping<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> &#8211; guilt, condemnation, and victimization.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to biological\u00a0 models, a person who finds himself in an emergency situation, experiences unpleasant physical sensations (accelerated heart rate, rapid breathing, sweating and hypertension), which he wants to reduce. In such a situation, he can choose to help, or retreat from the scene.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;I help, therefore I exist,&#8221; the socio-biologists say. They claim that the tendency to help others is genetic and universal and its purpose is to improve the chances of survival of the genes. We will help those who have similar genes to ours, and\/or those who have a chance to help us in the future.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">According to social psychology, a person helps another as a result of learning social rules of conduct. From the dawn of his childhood he understands what is desirable and what is not, and how he or she should be expected to act in society.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this context, studies show that giving a tangible reward (prize) for helping others reduces one&#8217;s willingness to help in the future, whereas providing a social reward (praise, appreciation) has many benefits. As for punishment for antisocial behavior &#8211; it was found to evoke a sense of hostility towards the punisher, and did not lead to the desired behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Among the most effective ways of acquiring pro-social behavior are imitation and personal example. A person living in a certain environment is influenced by it in various ways.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A review of the research data is interesting but also sad. When all is said and done, do we only act out of pure egoism?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The people mentioned in the chapter want to fight God. But as a human being, and a believing person, I would like to think that humans have a different and profound source of modesty and humility, an aspiration to imitate God\u2019s virtue of being kind, a mental readiness to need help from others and to accept help from them, and a simple and uncomplicated sense of camaraderie with all human beings..<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Translated by: Chava Wilschanski<\/span><\/p>\n","image":{"ID":67280,"id":67280,"title":"is41-help","filename":"is41-help.jpg","filesize":0,"url":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/is41-help.jpg","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/the-psychology-of-helping-others\/is41-help\/","alt":"","author":"7","description":"","caption":"","name":"is41-help","status":"inherit","uploaded_to":67279,"date":"2019-12-18 19:23:44","modified":"2022-08-11 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