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Here is a young woman, raised in a cosseted royal household, likely under the microscope of public opinion, in an environment of male dominance, who, while trying to help her brother through a supposed illness, becomes his rape victim.\u00a0 But besides relating a horrific event of sexual violence, the narrative also illustrates Tamar\u2019s courage, way ahead of her time, and demonstrates an example of victim response that only now, in 21<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">st<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> century society, is becoming normalized.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First, Tamar verbally and without any mistake refuses consent. \u201cCome lie with me\u201d asks her brother. \u201cDon\u2019t force me\u201d is her unequivocal reply (13:12).\u00a0 While her refused consent didn\u2019t help Tamar, we know today that consent is key in judging guilt of sexual violence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Second, she fought. Following the attack, we hear about Amnon\u2019s sudden hatred of Tamar.\u00a0 Many commentaries suggest that Amnon\u2019s hatred is a projection of his self-hatred with the knowledge that forever more every time he sees Tamar he\u2019ll be reminded of his own degeneracy. But many commentaries, including Rashi, are less charitable to Amnon and speculate that he was really expressing anger over the fight Tamar put up. Evidently, when Amnon had finished with Tamar and before he had thrown her out, she managed to tie something (a hair, a string\u2026it doesn\u2019t really matter) around Amnon\u2019s organ, mutilating him for life. Good for you, Tamar! It might not have served her well in today\u2019s judicial system but would surely play well in the court of public opinion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And thirdly, she didn\u2019t try to hide the truth or protect her aggressor. Amnon tried to dispose of Tamar, ordering his attendant to \u201cGet that woman out of my presence and bar the door behind her (13:17).\u201d But Tamar did not slink home and try to bury the crime that had been committed against her. Instead she outed Amnon to all, putting dust on her head, tearing her royal princess robe and \u201cwalked away, screaming loudly as she went (13:19).\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If only it hadn\u2019t taken more than 3,000 years for Tamar\u2019s example to become entrenched in a movement.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Image: #metoo by Wolfmann \/ wikipedia<\/span><\/p>\n","image":{"ID":60530,"id":60530,"title":"2sam13-metoo","filename":"2sam13-metoo.jpg","filesize":0,"url":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/2sam13-metoo.jpg","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/considering-tamar-in-the-age-of-metoo\/2sam13-metoo\/","alt":"","author":"7","description":"","caption":"","name":"2sam13-metoo","status":"inherit","uploaded_to":60529,"date":"2019-08-02 13:03:16","modified":"2022-02-12 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