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The book of Samuel opens with Hannah\u2019s heartbreaking but powerful prayer to God for a child that she can dedicate to the service of God. The narrative describes Hannah\u2019s method of prayer: \u201cHannah spoke in her heart. Only her lips moved but her voice was not heard.\u201d We know that Hannah\u2019s manner of praying is now the norm for individualized prayer, rather than the out-loud and open manner of prayer that had been the practice until then.<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking on, Eli, the Kohen Gadol, misinterprets what he sees and make a critical mistake. Because Hannah\u2019s prayer is out-of-the-box, Eli jumps to the conclusion that she must be drunk, and further, he casts his judgement directly to Hannah. Now imagine, being in the depths of despair and pouring your heart out only to be met by criticism and judgmentalism \u2013 like being kicked when you\u2019re down. <\/span><\/p>\n

Rav Bazak from the Virtual Beit Midrash (VBM) points to two most likely responses to such a situation: 1) respond in anger, lashing back at the insensitivity to a highly emotional and personal moment, or 2) being cowed by the criticism resulting in self-doubt and acquiescence to a societal expectation. But Hannah takes a different road altogether \u2013 a higher road that essentially turns the channel on this exchange. Hannah calmly, patiently and respectfully stands her ground and explains her case: \u201cNo, my Lord, I have not drunk wine. I am a woman of sorrowful spirit and out of the greatness of my grief have I been speaking.\u201d A simple, measured, even-tempered response.<\/span><\/p>\n

What could have been either an ugly confrontation or a sad subjugation of Hannah\u2019s authenticity ended instead in a win-win because three important character traits prevailed. Eli, as is often too rare in someone who has rushed to judgement, takes a step back and really listens to Hannah\u2019s story. Hannah in turn suppresses any hint of righteous indignation and instead responds with measured discourse while standing her ground. And finally, Eli responds to Hannah with the openness required to allow for a change of mind and attitude.<\/span><\/p>\n

This singular short interaction between two strong personalities heralded not just a paradigm shift in individualistic prayer but serves as a model for productive discourse that passes the test of time. 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