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The human aversion to vulnerability is undeniable. We deal with it daily, in every conversation and commitment and handshake. It is said that we fear the other, but we fear ourselves just as much, if not more.<\/span><\/p>\n

The story of Samson and Delilah plays out through seemingly simple characters in a deeply complex relationship, filled with deceit and unresolved vulnerability.<\/span><\/p>\n

Samson, a supernaturally powerful man, falls totally in love with Delilah.<\/span><\/p>\n

Their relationship is, from the get-go, emotionally charged. Samson\u2019s love goes unquestioned, but Delilah never verbalizes any feelings for him, even as their narrative progresses. It\u2019s true that she only enters a relationship with the man who loves her so that she can manipulate him, but what\u2019s interesting here is that, throughout the course of their entire relationship, she never uses her own emotional investments in him as a manipulative tool. She instead chooses to use his feelings for her as a way to manipulate him, completely circumnavigating any need for her to become emotionally dependent.<\/span><\/p>\n

Samson never shies away from expressing his love for Delilah, but as the story progresses, we see that he is capable of hiding his own vulnerabilities from her. He does not hesitate to lie to her about his weaknesses, even when he does not know that she\u2019s conspiring against him. His immediate responses to her intimate questions are lies. In this narrative, Samson is incapable of giving of himself beyond a certain point. He sees his insecurities as something to be hidden away, even from the one he loves.<\/span><\/p>\n

Delilah, too, is incapable of making herself vulnerable. The difference between them is that they have divergent understandings of vulnerability. Delilah believes that emotional intimacy – pronunciations of love, emotional dependency, etc – make a person vulnerable, and so she stays far away from any intimacy. She protects herself. Samson believes that it\u2019s the step beyond emotional attachment that constitutes real vulnerability. He feels unsafe only when his own insecurities are brought to light, not when he\u2019s being intimate with another person.<\/span><\/p>\n

Their relationship invites the question: which is the more human quality – hiding our vulnerabilities, or hiding from our vulnerabilities?<\/span><\/p>\n

When we approach Samson and Delilah as embodiments of the human condition, and not just players in a story about heroes and villains, we come to understand an entirely new side of emotional intimacy. Samson and Delilah are an honest and open reflection on human connection through fear of vulnerability. <\/span><\/p>\n

Through their story, we come to see that the most human intimate connection is one that exists in spite of all these insecurities. To live a life unafraid of vulnerability, where one never hid from or hid away those vulnerabilities, would be living an inhuman life. <\/span><\/p>\n

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