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Chapter 25 lays the scene: there\u2019s a quarrel between two men. \u00a0As they come to blows, the onlooking wife sees her husband struggling and intervenes. \u00a0Boldly, she reaches out and grabs the challenger by the genitals, in an attempt to save her husband. \u00a0The Torah\u2019s response: cut off her hand, show her no pity.<\/span><\/p>\n

This seems like a severe response on the part of the Torah. \u00a0Here, these two men were already fighting. She simply joins the fight in order to help out her husband. \u00a0It\u2019s not even clear that she injures the other party. And, yet we cut off her hand? What exactly is the crime here and why must we show her no pity? <\/span><\/p>\n

The Talmud reads this as a classic case of intent to shame. \u00a0She sent forth her hand and grabbed him by his <\/span>mevush<\/span><\/em>, which quite literally means \u201cto excite shame.\u201d \u00a0As the Talmud makes clear, she reached and grabbed him by this place of shame, in order to humiliate him and for this, we have no mercy. \u00a0But, what happens when we shame someone, without intent? When we shame someone accidentally?<\/span><\/p>\n

Tractate Bava Kamma goes on to discuss the many different instances in which one person shames another. \u00a0If I\u2019m asleep and while sleeping, I shame someone else, am I liable? If I fall from a roof and in falling, I shame someone, I\u2019m liable for the damage but exempt for shaming. \u00a0Why? Because shaming, as the Talmud explains it, requires intent. If I don\u2019t intend to shame the person, then the shaming doesn\u2019t count and therefore, I can\u2019t be held accountable. <\/span><\/p>\n

On one hand, this seems reasonable. \u00a0To shame someone is an action that seems to imply a deliberate attempt to cause another to feel shame. \u00a0And, yet, there are all sorts of circumstances where we might shame someone unintentionally. In these situations, when we are made aware after the fact, should we really hold up our hands up and say, \u201cWhoops, not my fault, unintended consequence.\u201d \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether or not we intend it, our actions have consequences and we must take responsibility for them. \u00a0Despite best intentions, we hurt people, we embarrass people, we even shame people, and it\u2019s on us to figure how to do better. \u00a0The law may not hold us accountable but we must hold ourselves to a higher standard.<\/span><\/p>\n","image":{"ID":51560,"id":51560,"title":"dt25-shame","filename":"dt25-shame.jpg","filesize":0,"url":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/dt25-shame.jpg","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/intent-to-shame\/dt25-shame\/","alt":"","author":"7","description":"","caption":"","name":"dt25-shame","status":"inherit","uploaded_to":51559,"date":"2019-03-18 14:03:55","modified":"2019-03-18 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