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One of the hardest tasks of a leader \u2013 from prime ministers to parents \u2013 is conflict resolution. Yet it is also the most vital… That is why an episode in this week\u2019s parsha is of the highest consequence… It arose like this. The Israelites were on the last stage of their journey to the promised land. They were now situated on the east bank of the Jordan, within sight of their destination. Two of the tribes, Reuben and Gad, who had large herds and flocks of cattle, felt that the land they were currently on was ideal for their purposes. It was good grazing country. So they approached Moses and asked for permission to stay there rather than take up their share in the land of Israel.They said: \u201cIf we have found favour in your eyes, let this land be given to your servants as our possession. Do not make us cross the Jordan\u201d (32: 5).<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Moses was instantly alert to the danger. The two tribes were putting their own interests above those of the nation as a whole. They would be seen as abandoning the nation at the very time they were needed most. There was a war \u2013 in fact a series of wars \u2013 to be fought if the Israelites were to inherit the promised land. As Moses put it to the tribes: \u201cShould your fellow Israelites go to war while you sit here? Why do you discourage the Israelites from crossing over into the land the Lord has given them?\u201d (32: 6-7)…<\/span>
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\n<\/span>What then followed is a role model in negotiation and conflict resolution. The Reubenites and Gadites recognised the claims of the people as a whole and the justice of Moses\u2019 concerns. They propose a compromise. Let us make provisions for our cattle and our families, they say, and the men will then accompany the other tribes across the Jordan. They will fight alongside them. They will even go ahead of them. They will not return to their cattle and families until all the battles have been fought, the land has been conquered, and the other tribes have received their inheritance. Essentially they invoke what would later become a principle of Jewish law: <\/span>zeh neheneh ve-zeh lo chaser<\/span><\/em>, meaning, an act is permissible if \u201cone side gains and the other side does not lose.\u201d We will gain, say the two tribes, by having land good for our cattle, but the nation as a whole will not lose because we will be in the army, we will be in the front line, and we will stay there until the war has been won.<\/span>
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\n<\/span>Moses recognises the fact that they have met his objections. He restates their position to make sure he and they have understood the proposal and they are ready to stand by it. He extracts from them agreement to a double condition, both positive and negative: If we do this, these will be the consequences, but if we fail to do this, those will be the consequences. He leaves them no escape from their commitment. The two tribes agree. Conflict has been averted. The Reubenites and Gadites achieve what they want but the interests of the other tribes and of the nation as a whole have been secured. It was a model negotiation.<\/span><\/p>\n

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