{"id":48645,"date":"2019-02-03T12:10:29","date_gmt":"2019-02-03T10:10:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/?p=48645"},"modified":"2022-08-28T13:54:52","modified_gmt":"2022-08-28T10:54:52","slug":"if-you-say-it-do-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/if-you-say-it-do-it\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Say It, Do It!"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-content\"><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[281],"tags":[377,463],"acf":{"old_id":"48645","type":"no","iframe":"","writer":33992,"related_cahpter":"147","type_929":"2","show_author_image":false,"old_create_date":"","old_url":"","post_main_content":{"description":"Sometimes living with integrity comes at the expense of always getting along","content":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is a common human foible to want to please the person in front of us. We laugh at jokes we don\u2019t find funny, we make sympathetic comments even to opinions we may not share, and we attempt to be liked by the people we are with at the moment. That desire to please is a heritage of our mammalian nature: neural pathways make sure to connect us to those nearby, linking our emotions, our responses, and even shading our opinions to keep us connected. We even yawn when those around us do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of the main casualties of this human propensity to \u00a0be similar to those we are near is that we often say things that we might mean at the time, but which upon reflection we want to walk back. We make promises we cannot (or should not) keep; we commit to goals we don\u2019t really desire. Social exchanges are often so scripted that we provide clues for when our answer is socially driven rather than accurate. \u201cHow are you?\u201d \u201cOh, I\u2019m fine, thank you.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is lost in that social pleasantries, the little lies that lubricate our public lives, the small deceptions and duplicities we all indulge is the certainty of being able to rely on what others tell us. Not only can\u2019t we assume that they are telling us the truth, but we often knowingly assume that they are not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Torah invites us to a higher transparency. \u201cIf a person makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath imposing an obligation on themselves, don\u2019t break the pledge; carry out all that has crossed your lips (30:3).\u201d Knowing that we have a propensity to say what people want to hear, the Torah commands us to do the work of committing ourselves, and of speaking only what we are willing to implement. That means a willingness to live with integrity even at the expense of always getting along. It requires us to weigh our promises and make them only if we are willing to follow through.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">At the price of momentary discomfort or disappointment, we create a world of integrity in which we can rely on each other. 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