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The Sotah, of the previous chapter, got a bad rap, leaving much to be discussed. One of the disturbing aspects of the ordeal is, of course, the \u201casymmetry\u201d: She\u2019s going through \u201cit\u201d, and what about the men involved?<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s no news that from the get go, women and me are not the same in the Torah (and in life?), but in this case particularly, the sages too, were bothered by what\u2019s going on. Therefore, regarding the husband, Rambam points out (Hilchot Sotah 82:8 based on Numbers 5:31):<\/span><\/p>\n

And all these things (that the water check the wife) \u2013 only work if the husband never sinned\u2026<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

And regarding her paramour, the Mishna (Tractate Sotah 27:b) teaches:<\/span><\/p>\n

Just as the water checks her fidelity, so too, the water checks his, i.e., her alleged paramour\u2019s, involvement in the sin\u2026. (so that whatever happens to her, happens to him).<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

The Sotah ordeal was abolished with the destruction of the Temple, some say due to the fact that there were too many adulterers. Husbands were then advised \u201csimply\u201d not to be jealous, as opposed to, for example, advising wives to \u201cbehave better\u201d. It did stay in the Torah, even though the procedure includes erasing God\u2019s name, as if, even God can give up a little bit of \u201cHis kavod<\/em>\u201d (honor) in order to bring about peace, and if this opportunity comes our way, maybe we can consider that when at an impasse.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shortly after the Sotah, in this chapter, we find the beautiful priestly blessing, \u201c<\/span>birkat hakohanim<\/span><\/em>\u201d, which many of us recite weekly when blessing our children. After God\u2019s name was erased, the priests are asked to bring God\u2019s name and presence anew on the people, to convey protection, light and peace, and do so \u2013 with love. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s so good to know that at the end of the day, love is always an option.<\/span><\/p>\n","image":{"ID":102942,"id":102942,"title":"-622df480befa2--622df480befa3gen27-esau father son love.jpg","filename":"622df480befa2-622df480befa3gen27-esau-father-son-love.jpg.jpg","filesize":0,"url":"https:\/\/cetwpuploads.blob.core.windows.net\/wp929\/uploads\/2018\/08\/622df480befa2-622df480befa3gen27-esau-father-son-love.jpg.jpg","link":"https:\/\/wp.929.org.il\/en\/have-you-no-blessing-for-me-father\/622df480befa2-622df480befa3gen27-esau-father-son-love-jpg\/","alt":"","author":"7","description":"","caption":"","name":"622df480befa2-622df480befa3gen27-esau-father-son-love-jpg","status":"inherit","uploaded_to":38114,"date":"2022-03-13 13:41:20","modified":"2023-02-07 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