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No baby in their right mind would choose to be born. Leaving the warm, albeit cramped, haven of the womb, where gratification is so instant that there is no feeling of need, in order to enter a harsh reality mostly defined by lacking something- it’s no wonder they cry so much. That cry cuts deep into the hearts of the new parents, reminding that, as much as they may want to, they cannot continue providing for their child’s every need as they once did.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is the cry of the Jewish people after they are forcefully pulled from the womb of Egypt through the birth canal of the Reed Sea. From a world where everything was provided for them, they now face the barren desert. But although God could accomplish what every new parent fantasizes about, He chooses not to, and this decision carries a critical message for us.<\/span><\/p>\n

When parents bring a child into the world, it is only the first of many difficult but necessary situations in which the child will feel that her parents are needlessly, inexplicably torturing her. Somewhere at the core of their cries, even before they learn to express it verbally, always lies the bitter accusation- “Mom, Dad, why did you DO this to me?”<\/span><\/p>\n

God’s first answer to this question, to instruct Moses to throw a tree into the bitter waters, is explained by a wondrous Midrash quoted by Ramban.<\/span><\/p>\n

” ‘And God showed him (<\/span>veyorehu<\/span><\/em>)<\/span><\/i> a tree.’ The verse doesn’t say ‘to show’ (<\/span>vayar’ehu<\/span><\/em>) but ‘to instruct’ (<\/span>vayorehu<\/span><\/em>). God taught him His path, that is, he instructed and taught him that God’s way is to sweeten the bitter with the bitter.”<\/span><\/p>\n

A parent’s first instinct when hearing their child’s cries is to want to stop it as soon as possible, in any way possible (a candy, a screen, some combination of the two). That sends the message that, essentially, it really was better in the womb. The first thing we can teach our children is that this life’s bitterness, pain, and dissatisfaction are real, but in this world we live in, we sweeten the bitter with the bitter.<\/span><\/p>\n

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