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The words &#8216;son&#8217;, &#8216;daughter&#8217; and &#8216;father&#8217; recur 31 times in the 31 verses of chapter 34. Apparently, the awful events of the chapter revolve around parents and children, and especially, what can happen when parents are run by their children, by providing too much autonomy, or too much support. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Jacob and Hamor, the two fathers who cast themselves into supporting roles in the story, personify each extreme. On the one hand, parents can grant too much autonomy to their children, letting them be the masters of their own fate, make their own decisions and their own mistakes, and thereby let their children&#8217;s decisions, informed by passion, unfettered by the careful measuring of consequences, determine events. This is Jacob, who allows Dinah to wander unaccompanied in an unknown city (contrast this with the precautions taken by Abraham and Isaac in Egypt and Gerar), and who does not utter a single word until the very end of the chapter, leaving it entirely up to his sons to determine the reaction to Dinah&#8217;s rape. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand are parents who can&#8217;t relinquish their ownership over their children&#8217;s wellbeing, but who provide for them based on the children&#8217;s own sense of their needs. This is Hamor, the dedicated father who has named the city after his son, who will allow his entire town to undergo &#8220;minor surgery&#8221; in order to satisfy his son&#8217;s infatuation. 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