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There is a value that I have often overheard in Israeli playgrounds, which I don’t think I ever really encountered in America. It’s the value of being <\/span>‘mevater’<\/span><\/i>– of giving up on something. An older child might be asked to be ‘<\/span>mevater<\/span><\/i>‘ on a toy that a younger child wants, a parent might ask two bickering children- who will be ‘<\/span>mevater<\/span><\/i>‘. <\/span>Vitur <\/span><\/i>is more than sharing, and even more than compromising. It is a willing relinquishment of something you have every right to. <\/span><\/p>\n

Chapter 33 is about the power of being ‘<\/span>mevater<\/span><\/i>‘. \u00a0We suggested that Jacob’s experience with the angel has convinced him that true victory will be gained by insisting on win-win. But how is that achieved? Sometimes, what enables a win-win situation is the discovery that each party actually defines success in a subtly different way.<\/span><\/p>\n

In Jacob and Esau’s case, the difference can be summed up by two two-letter words- “<\/span>rav<\/span><\/i>” and “<\/span>kol<\/span><\/i>“. Esau explains his reluctance to accept Jacob’s tribute by saying that he has “<\/span>rav”- “<\/span><\/i>a lot”. Jacob insists, because in his eyes, he has \u201ceverything\u201d- “<\/span>kol<\/span><\/i>“. Jacob has no need for all the riches he has gained in Laban’s house, indeed, he has no need for the blessing of dominating his brother. <\/span><\/p>\n

When he says “take my blessing which has been brought to you”, on one level he is referring to the tribute, but it’s hard not to hear the echoes of that blessing which was meant for Esau, which Jacob took, and is now relinquishing. Esau ultimately acquiesces, because someone who has ‘a lot’ will always appreciate having even more. But for Jacob having ‘everything’ is not dependent on the quantity of his riches at all. 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