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May a child choose a marriage partner against the wishes of a parent? Writing in the thirteenth century, Rabbi Shlomo ibn Adret (Rashba) argued that getting married is a positive command, and parental wishes may not override the fulfilment of a command by a child, since the wishes of God take precedence over those of human beings.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As for Isaac, Rashba\u2019s explanation is simple. Isaac was a \u201cperfect offering\u201d, a child of special sanctity, who was not allowed to leave the land of Israel. Had this is not been so, says Rashba, he would certainly have undertaken the journey himself to choose a wife (Rashba, Teshuvot ha-meyuchasot le-Ramban, 272).<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What we see from all these sources is that Jewish law \u2013 despite its immense emphasis on honouring parents \u2013 also insists that parents make space for their children to make their own decisions in matters affecting their personal happiness. The Jewish family is not authoritarian. 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